From medicinal marijuana to mindful masturbation and harm reduction to hog tied; it’s no holds barred out there today, and there is more all the time.
How does this apply to that? What was that anyway? What makes the most sense?
If, as is believed, the masculine heart desires freedom. To create a safe space in which to be free. Meanwhile, the feminine heart is all about love, wanting love, more love, I am never loved enough, all that, and looking for a safe place to love freely.
The two come together to form a solid connection when the energy is right, clear of emotional baggage and beliefs, and life gets very easy.
So easy, in fact, that you don’t dare leave it, but that is only if you have been there in the first place.
What if you have not?
You have never had that level of bliss—a solid, or even better, sacred connection.
If you have not had that bliss, and even if you do or are close, it is what you are wanting. Deep down, below that part of you that is saying “no it isn’t” right now. Easy, freedom and love.
But that is where your own internal masculine and feminine come in. Getting a little higher here in the level of consciousness, but with that knowledge it is evident that that internal balance needs to be met for bliss in the first place.
When someone gets to this point, where they can balance that by creating a safe space internally in which they can then enjoy the fuck out of life, they have arrived.
That is what we want. The space to be who we are freely.
That is the point when the person says “I am not going to drink again,” or “that was the last time I will do that” in one form or another.
But this time it is different. They have suddenly contained that urge to just love freely without their own self-control. It has been their choice all along and they now realize that release of a problematic behavior.
They choose to change and change.
Getting and maintaining that balance. The first part is easier than the second part, but both are well worth the emotional investment.
Finding out what you want, what you love, who you are and not who you are supposed to be. That is the ticket to ride, and you choose the destination.
Since moving completely into the online world in the mid-90s, I have been intrigued as to the nature of the dependency of people on technology. Their addiction developed almost immediately. Pretty much everyone anyone reading this knows is online whether they like it or not.
Continuing into the digital age, and the new definitions to older words, words like trust, truth, and love get used in so many ways they lose their impact. In loving and trusting and telling the truth in so many digital ways we have stretched some deep seated personal spaces.
Who do we love? Who do we tell the truth to? Who, if anyone, do we really trust?
With so many options, from a vast array of paths, there are more places that we use those words than ever before.
There is no reason to cultivate a relationship to a single thing because there is another one/person/whatever waiting and available.
The availability expands its reach all the time and only brings things desirable closer in the evolving definition of close in the digital age.
Expanding day-to-day connections with people that we have never actually met and probably never will is becoming more the norm all the time. When we say our “so called friends on Facebook” who are we they really? Is there a new word on the horizon, or is this how definitions change, and, if so, who’s dictionary are we using?
Along with the nature of relationship, the words we use to describe relationships continue to be overused to the point of being vague and meaningless.
For the most part though, we have shredded truth so much it seems we are even lying when we say we are seeking because we seem to never actually find it.
Effort or availability?
Either way, trust is a word that has a lot of uses, and seems to have lost its punch over time.
Information has become so important in the materialist society that there is never enough of it, and even for those who try to avoid it, it is hard to be clueless when the same news that makes people unhappy is also they want to to talk about, to share news stories about, so that they make sure you feel bad about it to.
Don’t you feel better?
If not, don’t get a victim mindset and check your ego. More big words, important ones, but still.
Once upon a time, we trusted each other easily, then the number of people in our lives was replaced with more things in our life and it became not so easy to trust those. So we tried to cram it into our trust box and they simply don’t fit. At least not the same way, comfortably.
Trust is not lost over time, but people are, and, like trust, they are harder to replace.
With materials and the ever present obsession with money, online financial concern is among the top of the trust issues these days, at least when most think about trust.
Is this website secure? Can I really trust PayPal or something similar to send money to a friend’s email account? As those are always answered yes, they only grow more options, because now the store is open globally all the time to spread the trust around.
With fewer people as we continue in a separated society of lines drawn by various “facts”, believes and opinions, we now we mostly trust things instead of individual people, and most commonly it is in the container of services offered and desired. Most often, not even a person but a company instead.
Do I trust this merchant? Why? It's just the way things have developed as we have moved more and more apart as the overall model of the "economy" changed conditions for most everyone to love things more than each other, more than themselves.
The days of knowing a lot of people at work, or even to have known them long enough to remember their wedding day or have kids is getting rarer all the time.
The digital world was the icing on the cake of a world already gone wild with mechanization powered by the ever-emerging cyber world. It secured an individuality for people who could have a sense of community without having to be in each other’s physical presence. Through various companies they trust, they have a solid connection.
They can also do so without much regard to day-to-day events if they do not choose to tune in to that frequency. It is very easy to tune out, you just surround yourself with like minded people, virtually or if you can in person, and you have a virtual community. Again, however, connected by digital companies.
One does not need to watch the news to make an educated guess as to what is going on.
Floods happen. Planes crash. They do, they do, and it's okay. It's life.
It is going to happen regardless of what you about, and, unless you have a way to prevent it from happening again, the best one can really do is do what it is they do and go on with life.
What else is there a need to know? If that is enough, you are carrying a lighter load and able to focus on you and your surroundings with all the more presence.
The overall point being that trust is being diffused to mean something it did not before, but there is one trust that can’t be lost.
With the way we trust so different now, how we do it, in what ways, and with who, is a constant ebb and flow.
Therefore, perhaps it is best just to trust yourself. I mention "the random opinions of others" a lot. It can be interpreted several ways, but, either way, remember they are all just that, opinions.
Even that one in your head. Try and narrow that down to just one and just speak.
For the past two years, I have for the first time, as an adult, I opened completely to a new tradition with open arms. Prior to relatively recently, I was so far in Nordic and Celtic traditions, and had since was very young,
There was no "ah ha" moment here, it was gradual and now has me submerged. Why so long? Cultural appropriation--the political issue of spirituality.
Being raised in the US, I stayed as far away as I could from native traditions because, first I did not think those people would accept me based on my heritage, and secondly because I frankly did not see the need to have the same voice from a different mouth--that being spirit--and I was fine with what I already had.
Had being the operative word.
While we all have different relationships with spirituality, mine was all about survival. Underneath it all, I was not happy with the way Christians had forced the conversion of my Celtic and Nordic ancestors, very much what they did here in the US generations later after adopting a corrupted relationship based on nature and gods for a pope and laws.
But then I survived that eight-year sickness so often talked about, and along the way spirit seemed to change for me, at least in where I was finding it most strongly in its resonance.
Durga was first, early on, but I did not know why. I knew a person who had a large representation, but other than that it was people attraction to Durga that drew me it as well.
I kept that in the back of my mind, but goddesses, Shakti, were appearing everywhere for me.
Not by name, but seemingly every day there was something. Then came Saraswati. None of this via my intention, it just kept happening. I did not look into any of the particulars of this tradition, just went with it.
This past weekend I had my kids over, and for the first time in a long time the stories were not of Forsetti and Meach, but of Lackshmi, Sarawati, and Genesha. Rut row!
So, this morning I asked the google to fill me in. What is the story with Hinduism today in this stream of consciousness I was in? Is it old school, like the way I am with the oldest of Celtic and Nordic traditions or was it more a result of the 60s?
Turns out, both. While some today will not like to admit it, most all of what we do that is outside of the box comes from the men and women in the 60s who pushed so many envelopes at once. And they started to meditate .....
So, I found this as the basic understanding of people today to gravitate to the tradition today. It is malleable and makes sense.
How I got from "you have six months to live" in 2011 to "I don't buy the myth of death" that was my mantra for the next eight years; how do you think I did that? It was being open to all of the following, and opening up to it first with shamanism (that is a loaded word), but, just as I proved that myth wrong in this instance and lived, there is no time like the present to continue living but now with a focus on living life alive and not simply living not to die.
For those who I worked with in the drug and alcohol world during those years, and now, this will explain a lot that I might never have shared before, but now you will see where I was/am coming from. But that has been obvious all along, thus my aversion to the clinical environment a choosing the virtual space.
This is very comfortable:
I believe in the one Eternal Source or Ultimate Reality, called by many names, which flows through all forms of nature and can be known through spiritual realization and experience.
I believe in unseen worlds and beings who may interact with our world, and that some are benevolent and help guide and protect us, while others are malevolent, and that channeling, or mediumship, is a means of contacting such souls.
I believe that the world is a dynamic, conscious entity; that mankind is but one part of the cosmic ecology and that, as stewards, we must treat the world responsibly, with love, respect and reverence.
I believe that consciousness is present in and conveyed through some structures more than others. Thus, for example, crystals are powerful sources or channels of knowledge and spiritual strength.
I believe in meditation, trance, rebirthing, self-healing, channeling, past-life regression, crystals, sexual tantras, drugs and more as effective tools in the quest for wholeness and oneness with the sacred, and that one should continue to explore alternatives and not feel restricted to the disciplines of any one system of thought.
I believe the world has entered the New Age, the age of Aquarius, awakening to the consciousness of love, selflessness, compassion and creativity, from the old age of hatred, war, ignorance and greed. Those who perceive this vision should share it with others to uplift society.
I believe that traditional religions are outmoded and that we are moving toward a universal brotherhood; yet, the Eastern religions and so-called primitive faiths are rich reservoirs of truth and spiritual practice.
I believe in nonconformity and noncommitment: that each person is responsible to his or her own conscience only and not to the dictates of society which often unduly hamper freedom of expression, and that even spiritual gurus are to be approached with circumspection.
I believe that many of society's traditional economic and social structures are outmoded and should be abandoned for ones which reflect New Age consciousness and that dropping out of society is a valid New Age alternative.