“Woke AF”.

That is the shirt she wants. She did not even know what that meant a month ago, but she does now, and she did not even know of being “woken up” or “awakening” until she looked back over the last several months in her own life and in herself.

Indeed that is exactly what has happened and I personally have never seen such a dramatic shift in someone that also is seemingly a total departure from nearly everything she was doing a year ago.

She is not “young” either. More years than my 53.

Having been through this myself and seeing the changes I made as a result, and seeing that happen over and over again over the years since in others, I now have the pleasure of witnessing someone do this so seemingly effortlessly and flawlessly that has led to a blissful life.

Let that sink in.

In my line of work, and I am not trying to be dramatic here, but I have seen some serious ground covered in the many hours of sessions, and in every case it was what those individuals did on their own, in between the times we participated in our conversations, that the real work was done.
 
By them and on themselves without even looking at it like that. That is the way it best for them, to do that on their own, because talking to people like me is something you do assist in perhaps getting that going, but you are going, away, on your own, on your terms to live your life.
 
That is how she is doing it now, and when we have conversations today it is about more ways she can engage the world in a positive way. Everything continues to be a bright new horizon.

I said effortlessly, but that is not to suggest she did not overcome some major challenges, major departures from deeply rooted beliefs, and hours of contemplation on some very personal questions, she never faltered and never looked back.

Always ahead, regardless of what those around her had to say about “her progress”. She didn’t discount these opinions out of spite, but rather just that it was how things looked and seemed to others, and she did not agree.

Even in that, in those times when people were forceful in questioning her rapid progress, for in the past she had tried to change and ultimately went back to the same repetitive patterns of self-destruction, she never let it bother her.

Just kept truckin’, one step at a time but always aligned with her new path.

That quantum space between the liner behavior patterns that are so well chronicled by psychotherapy, is where it happens. In the times we are together we rarely speak about those linear “facts” and instead wonder about their very existence in the first place. Where does that come from, and awareness is raised. A shift upwards in consciousness to be able see a bigger picture.
 
The wonderland of the human mind in which one can go searching for their own answers by looking at it from as many angles as they can, seamlessly, as if everything makes sense, and finding the best step for you right now. Then taken it, repeatedly.

The participants/people, i.e., clients, go there then, when we are not together, perhaps due to the resonance of our time together, who knows, who cares, it happens, and that is what we were trying to get the conditions right to actualize in the first place. Like has been said, anything with the potential to happen will be actualized when the conditions are right.

She is finding the potentially best option in every step because the conditions of her life are good things and that is what in turn creates even more good things.

So, well done universe. Clearly the potential is out there, and you had her covered all along. She understands that now too.

Oh, and she went to the Amazon, as in .com, to get what WAF shirt because she indeed is Woke as Fuck. She even has gone out recently and picked up tee-shirts for “just being out in the world” that say things like “Happy”, and “You are my Sunshine.”

She is now talking about going to crystal bowl meditations and wanting to learn more about what she "learned" about the Native American point of view on how Thanksgiving went down in their version of the store.

That, was heavy news for her and she made sure she shared what she had learned yesterday when the family gathered.

It has been over six months of this. I think it is going to take. 

For the record, this is indeed a participant of mine and she knows full well I am writing about this. She is very vocal about how she turned herself around and how it can work if you just believe in yourself.

​So, she is cool with this and will likely be one of the first to read it as well. She will also know, that having gone from Vikings to the energy flow from the universe and how it impacts you and what you can do about getting clear, was not any kind of indoctrination. It just made the most sense for her as she also was very familiar with how I life my life. So, and not claiming any credit other than participation and my words, etc., but I did not tell her about how to include these things in her life, she pretty much just observed it as it came through over the 18+ months we have been working together.

When asked, I once said that my “ideal client” was sitting somewhere right now, at a dock, waiting for a shipment to come in. He did not know what was in the container he was to receive, he only had a plan to take it, by force most likely, and deliver it to a location. He would be paid in cash for this. He is an outlaw. He lives outside the law, he does not recognize its existence, and he is free. But he needs someone to talk to, someone who does not even need to know his real name.

Time will tell if that happens. 

Weather or not you are that person, or nothing even close to being someone like that it does not matter. Talking with someone about it is always a good thing. Alcohol, other substances, relationships, and life altering events can take their toll, and you need to spend your resources wisely.

What you do for a living is your own business, what you want to talk about is yours as well, and I am here to listen. Safe, secure, and relatively few questions. Just the subject at hand is all that is important to me.

If you are a veteran, unable to fit back into society, or you are a member, for now, of society and wanting to find a new way, rebuilding your world with the abundance of great things available today makes it easy.

But only if you want it. Really want it.

You can “find yourself” regardless of where you are on the map, and you only need yourself to do that. However, exploring a new perspective on your personal conditions provides a fresh new footing on which to build a path.

You are not bigger than the universe, and it is full of opportunities just waiting for you. You just have to open up.

From medicinal marijuana to mindful masturbation and harm reduction to hog tied; it’s no holds barred out there today, and there is more all the time.
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How does this apply to that? What was that anyway? What makes the most sense?

If, as is believed, the masculine heart desires freedom. To create a safe space in which to be free. Meanwhile, the feminine heart is all about love, wanting love, more love, I am never loved enough, all that, and looking for a safe place to love freely.

The two come together to form a solid connection when the energy is right, clear of emotional baggage and beliefs, and life gets very easy.

So easy, in fact, that you don’t dare leave it, but that is only if you have been there in the first place.

What if you have not?

You have never had that level of bliss—a solid, or even better, sacred connection.

If you have not had that bliss, and even if you do or are close, it is what you are wanting. Deep down, below that part of you that is saying “no it isn’t” right now. Easy, freedom and love.

But that is where your own internal masculine and feminine come in. Getting a little higher here in the level of consciousness, but with that knowledge it is evident that that internal balance needs to be met for bliss in the first place.

When someone gets to this point, where they can balance that by creating a safe space internally in which they can then enjoy the fuck out of life, they have arrived.
That is what we want. The space to be who we are freely.

That is the point when the person says “I am not going to drink again,” or “that was the last time I will do that” in one form or another.

But this time it is different. They have suddenly contained that urge to just love freely without their own self-control. It has been their choice all along and they now realize that release of a problematic behavior.

They choose to change and change.

Getting and maintaining that balance. The first part is easier than the second part, but both are well worth the emotional investment.

Finding out what you want, what you love, who you are and not who you are supposed to be. That is the ticket to ride, and you choose the destination.